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It matters not what name I give God. He (She) is more concerned with my spiritual progress than my salutation.

Can limited, finite beings adequately name the infinite? THIS is the first Cause, the One before all things, who separated time from eternity, space from infinity to give home to the universes. He/She is the origin and upholder of the stars, planets, and all contained in the cosmos, the over-soul of creation and the designer of evolution. This majestic, powerful, creator initiated all forms of life and then, with love, bestowed a fragment of his very divinity, the “kingdom of heaven within,” to each of his children. This indwelling spirit patiently waits to act as a loving guide, unselfish friend, and source of transformative power but can only respond after the individual makes a choice to accept the divine assistance.

The name we speak pales in significance compared to how we respond, how we use our power of choice. Each choice enhances or erodes the quality of our life. Do we believe or not? Do we ignore even the possibility that we may have an innate spiritual component? Do we communicate thankfulness and receive direction and power every day?  If we believe, do we seek guidance for every part of our life; or do we do as little as possible—spend a little time each week saying a few words, sharing a few minutes, and then struggle with life?

Prayer: Dear ________, the first source of all things, the giver of life, my infinite and loving spiritual parent, thank you for creating and loving me; thank you for sending the divine spark the “kingdom of heaven within” to indwell me and all your children; help me seek this inner reservoir to guide my thoughts, elevate my ideals, and improve my acts with transforming power.  

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; pause for a few minutes in silence.

The “Big I” causes most of our misery.

Infection from the “Big I” disease occurs when my thoughts, words, and actions focus on my desires and needs. My only concern for other people is how they affect what I want. It’s all about I, I, I, me, me, me. Media, marketing, and entertainment spearhead this self-deification, continually shouting “Do this” or “Buy this” to feel good or to influence what other people think of us. How well has it worked? Marriages are failing and families disintegrating; we turn to chemicals to feel good and still suffer extremely high rates of anxiety, stress, loneliness, and misery.

We cannot enjoy great relationships, happiness, and peace of mind when we’re infected with the Big “I”. We must move beyond this self-importance to something that actually works—an awareness of the importance of other people and of God. When you feel tense, irritated or angry, pause a moment and see if this is related to the “Big I.” Ask yourself, “Are my thoughts focused on how something or someone affects ME? Is this causing my discontent?”  Upon retiring tonight, review your day for the frequency and impact of these self-directed words, thoughts, and actions. In prayer, ask God to relieve you of the “Big I.”

Prayer: My inner spirit guide and strength, help me move beyond selfishness, self-centeredness and self-righteousness; make me aware when I succumb to these harmful traits and of their influence on my life; give me the vision to see the needs, desires, and lives of others. Grant me the divine wisdom to feel, act, and be a part of this great family of humanity; to be one of your many spiritual children.

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; pause for a few minutes in silence

An extraordinary relationship exhibits shared core values, the willingness to grow individually and together, and individual loving, selfless freedom.

Shared core values are an important part of the best relationships.  A mutual commitment to God, integrity, honesty, truth, coupled with loving, tolerant attitudes toward others offers a firm basis for building extraordinary relationships. As with most things, unity of direction should outweigh uniformity of belief. A loving relationship is a living entity and will grow or die; as such, it provides three potential areas for growth: growth of each individual and growth of the union, the partnership.

Each individual must nurture his or her own personal spiritual growth and this requires some quiet and alone time for investigation, meditation, reflection, and processing. The resulting energy, direction, security and peace provide additional tools to overcome the challenges inherent in combining two lives. Then, a unique and special bond forms and cements the joint venture when the individuals add a shared spiritual growth to the practical, daily living choices and actions. Discussing and sharing divine values, goals, purpose, and ideals produces a depth of understanding and commitment that that does not occur in secular partnerships.

Prayer: Dear God, help me realize the value of relationships; let your love open my heart and mind; guide me to live to my fullest potential; strengthen my commitment to learn and grow; expand this desire so that I may support those I love and demonstrate caring for all people.

 Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence.

A thousand declarations of love mean less than one caring act.

  • Do I speak of love but fail to demonstrate caring?
  • Do I rail against the plight of the less fortunate but never volunteer to help?
  • Do I proclaim that everyone has a right to their belief and opinions but close my ears and mind to what they say—or even denigrate that which does not agree with my ideas?
  • Do I say that I respect others but participate in gossip?
  • Do I bemoan poverty but fail to act with charity?

Words and intentions accomplish nothing without action.

I am too insignificant to change the world but have many opportunities to contribute to others, to perhaps improve one very small area of that one person’s life.  I can give a “thank you” card for no reason, pause and listen with my heart when someone needs to share, or just clean the toilet. I can serve a meal in a shelter, visit a lonely senior, give money or time to a worthy charity, or actually be patient and loving when I feel like rushing away or screaming. Our world overflows with words and intentions but has much fewer healthy, loving actions.  A tender act benefits the recipient and the giver.

Prayer: My inner guide, help me to realize that without action, my desires and intentions are as smoke in the wind; instill in me the initiative to act on my higher values and intentions; reveal the large and small acts of kindness that move me to be the best version of myself.  Give me the “willingness to act”; strengthen me with your spirit and power to actually “do” in addition to loving and caring. It is my will that your will be done.

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence.

Build a memory of love today; use these to rise out of future darkness

I have experienced the great advantage of almost dying, of being pretty certain that I would not live to see another day. Near death, I had no thoughts of my work, of my money or the possessions I was leaving behind. My reflections centered on the relationships and experiences in my life.

I have loved and been loved; I had sunk to the darkest depths, traversed that dark night of the soul, and emerged with the majestic transformation that comes from finding God in this short life. I remembered holding my newborn daughter and son, the pain of losing a beloved wife to cancer and the blessing of being able to take care of her in her final days—to have the maturity, courage, and wisdom to actually demonstrate love. I thought of the serendipity that led to meeting a wonderful woman at a spiritual retreat, our instantaneous connection, and the wonderful blessed life we share; I remembered friends with whom I had shared deep feelings and beliefs and the thrill and beauty I enjoyed riding my horses in the high mountain country. Relationships, God, and experiences were the true summary of a lifetime. Take the opportunity to build to a memory today.

Prayer: My loving inner spirit, please increase my awareness of opportunities to build, expand, and reinforce the love I feel for someone and to actually do something instead of just thinking about it; help me be aware of any chance to spread the wealth of happiness, peace, and security that I enjoy; awaken in me the unexpected smile, cheerfulness, patience and tolerance; guide me to acknowledge all the bountiful blessings in my life.

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence

I sometimes take the people closest to me for granted

and fail to extend the respect, courtesy, and love I feel for them. I need to treat the people I love and value as well as I treat co-workers, friends, and casual acquaintances. Without attention and awareness, close relationships can suffer from familiarity—that attitude of quiet indifference. We expect people to know that they are important to us because of a few words we say or past actions should have proven it.

We must continually demonstrate the value we have for the people close to us. Love is not a passive, taken-for-granted, it’s all about me attitude. We remember and acknowledge the birthday, listen with our heart when they need to talk, and give those unexpected flowers, a card, or small gift. We can prepare a special meal (perhaps with an unexpected romantic setting); we communicate—actually tell them how much they add to our life and how grateful we are that they share our time, our hopes, and the adversities we face. We can give a quiet loving touch, a hug that demonstrates caring. Appreciation and value can be demonstrated on physical, mental, spiritual and emotional levels.

Prayer: My powerful and intimate inner spirit, help me be aware of the value of those people closest to me; help me do those little acts of kindness and love that adds a sparkle to their day, acts that demonstrate the importance I place on each of them being a part of my life
Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence.

 

Whenever I am upset, there is something wrong with ME.

I must be responsible for all my feelings or forever feel un-peaceful. Yes, bad things happen; people inflict real or imagined wrongs, life is hectic and I get frustrated when people or events do not meet my expectations. I cannot control other people but I can choose how I react. I must slow down, take three deep breaths, and ask my inner spirit to help me understand why I am reacting this way and lead me to a better response:

  • Have I lost my connection to my spiritual source? Do I truly feel that spiritual presence?
  • Am I making myself—something I want or expect—or someone else—more important than the spiritual purpose, values, and direction that must be my foundation?
  • Is my mind spiritually directed or I am reacting on self-will?
  • Am I allowing my perceptions, expectations, other people’s opinions, or temporary events to erode my security, dignity, poise, or self-worth?
  • How important is it really? Is it an immediate problem that threatens my well-being? Is it really any of my business?

Prayer: I am disturbed; I have lost my sense of well-being and know that you, my inner spiritual source will help restore my peace. I ask that you quiet my mind, heal my emotions, and spread your infinite love throughout my soul and to every fiber of my being. Let me feel your presence in my life this moment; guide my thoughts to reflect on the blessings in my life; help me to understand that disappointment, loss, rejection, and adversity are opportunities for growth, chances for me to deepen this relationship that is the true power of my existence.

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence

Love people; use things. Don’t use people and love things

Our world focuses on “things.” We are bombarded with the concept that our life will be better if we just get this “thing”; we are told that we will experience love and exquisite bliss if we just buy this certain object. And it’s a lie. “Things” can make our life easier or more enjoyable; using them may add to our pleasure but can never be the source of deep and lasting happiness.  

Loving other people and being able to receive love are essential in fulfilling our human potential. Loving relationships are the heartbeat of our very existence, a vital need to every individual. Love flows from the eternal source but must move through us to others to become a part of our own experience. Love is “an active and healthy concern for a person’s well-being” and not a desire for, or an affection of, a thing.

Prayer: Infinite source and my indwelling connection to God, help me open my heart, mind and soul to become more aware of the divine flow of your love; grant me understanding, compassion, and tolerance to bestow this gift to all I meet this day—especially to any that may offend or hurt me. Let me appreciate the material blessings, the “things” of life, but not be overly concerned with any of them.

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence.

“Silent Agreement” can spawn lies, sever loyalties, and lessen something honest or good without uttering a word.

Yes, silence may be golden, but failing to stand for our core values costs a heavy price (always for us and sometimes for others.) Make no mistake: Silence is tacit agreement with what has been said or done.

Like so many things, the motive for silence is more important than the act itself. “Why” we fail to speak determines the ultimate effect on our character. If the occurring words or deed reflect something that is not important, or we have no belief or knowledge about it, social grace may let us pass on stating our conviction or opinion. However, failing to address an action that conflicts with our life purpose, beliefs, or values because we fear others people’s opinions, are concerned with the repercussions that may be inflicted upon us, or we just want to “get along” causes three problems:

  1. Our silent agreement adds weight, strength, and credibility to something that offends us or that we feel is in error.
  2. Each such act takes a piece of our integrity, ethics, and courage.
  3. Repeated failures build character patterns until we are conditioned not to be speak out against anything.

Spiritual maturity and wisdom guide us when to speak loving, tactful, courageous words.

Prayer: Dear God, guide my mind this day. Give me wisdom, peace and courage as I engage with all people. Help me to always stand for what is important; guide me to speak and act with poise, loyalty and conviction but not be overly involved with the trifles of life.

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence

“Silent Agreement” can spawn lies, sever loyalties, and lessen something honest or good without uttering a word.

Yes, silence may be golden, but failing to stand for our core values costs a heavy price (always for us and sometimes for others.) Make no mistake: Silence is tacit agreement with what has been said or done.

Like so many things, the motive for silence is more important than the act itself. “Why” we fail to speak determines the ultimate effect on our character. If the occurring words or deed reflect something that is not important, or we have no belief or knowledge about it, social grace may let us pass on stating our conviction or opinion. However, failing to address an action that conflicts with our life purpose, beliefs, or values because we fear others people’s opinions, are concerned with the repercussions that may be inflicted upon us, or we just want to “get along” causes three problems:

  1. Our silent agreement adds weight, strength, and credibility to something that offends us or that we feel is in error.
  2. Each such act takes a piece of our integrity, ethics, and courage.
  3. Repeated failures build character patterns until we are conditioned not to be speak out against anything.Spiritual maturity and wisdom guide us when to speak loving, tactful, courageous words.

Prayer: Dear God, guide my mind this day. Give me wisdom, peace and courage as I engage with all people. Help me to always stand for what is important; guide me to speak and act with poise, loyalty and conviction but not be overly involved with the trifles of life.

Take three relaxing breaths; ask your inner spirit to guide your meditation; reflect on the content, pausing for a few minutes in silence.

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